Children and Sacrifice
Bassam talks about his father’s care for him, and his own for his children. Bassam refuses to take revenge for his daughter’s assassination because he will be imprisoned or killed and this will mean sacrificing his other children: “Personally I’ll be satisfied; but what will I have done to my children?” Martin Land comments that by refusing to make his children fatherless, Bassam is not just giving them a better life but is contributing to the 'material circumstance' - society’s good.
Itamar and his father are also struggling with sacrifice: Itamar’s father urges him not to endanger himself by going to prison for refusing to serve in Lebanon. Itamar asks, “Dad, do you really believe it’s safer for me to fight in Lebanon than to sit in prison for two weeks?” Itamar says his father believes that because of the holocaust wars are holy and not to be challenged, despite his knowing that strategically they don't promote security or peace.
Bassam and Itamar talk about their blood stain phobias: Bassam cannot look at blood on people, either in dreams or if he is saving someone’s life. Itamar says, "How could I ever caress a daughter or my girlfriend with these blood-stained hands? I began to cry for a long time”. Jessica Benjamin talks about Itamar having stepped out of dissociation; he is no longer able to keep killing and loving separate.